1/28/10
Your honest opinion.
I have a question for you. I will tell you what happened and then you can tell me your honest opinion. No holding back. Alyssa is a person that does her own thing. She likes what she likes, she likes who she likes and she doesn't follow the fads. She doesn't let other people dictate what she does. I am thrilled that she is this way. This child of mine will stand up to anyone and argue her points to no end. If she believes in something you won't get her to change her mind. She is a strong young lady and I am very proud of her. With all of that being said, she also tries to not argue with other people. If she knows that you have a different opinion than she does, she will just not discuss that issue with you. One of the things that bothers me is if kids at school say stuff to bother her, she will usually just let it go and chalk it up to their ignorance. A good example of this is the election of our current president. She watched more of the debates than I did, she did research on her own without anyone telling her to, and she came to a decision on her own that she liked President Obama. We have never made our kids choose certain things because that is how we feel about them. My child was made fun of at school, in class, in front of the teacher and not a word was said to stop it. I let it go. She has been made fun of all year because she likes Michael Jacksons music. Today was the final straw. She has a bag that has a picture of MJ on it and one of the girls was hiding her face saying that it scared her. She also told Alyssa to turn the bag away from her. Alyssa snapped and stood up in class and made an announcement that she liked him, that he was a human being and if people didn't like it then just shut up and leave her alone. Then, she told everyone that she would punch them in the face if they said anything else to her. She said that her teacher got onto the class for picking on her and told her she was sure she didn't mean that she would punch anyone. Alyssa told her no she wouldn't do it but she was angry. We told her that she isn't in trouble with us but here is the question. She has an 8th grade trip to Disney World coming up and she could possibly lose it, depending on what the teacher does. Do I fight for her right to go, or tell her that she has to suffer the consequences? Tell me your honest opinion on this please. No hurt feelings I promise.
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Okay, take a deep breath Mama!
First, I admire Alyssa for daring to be her own person. It's not easy to do when you're 40, and definitely not easy at 14.
Now, do you know that disciplinary action is going to be taken against Alyssa?
It sounds like it may not come down to the teacher taking away the trip. Since she called down the class and Alyssa backed up and admitted that it was just her anger taking over for the moment, that may be the end of it, at least as far as the teacher is concerned.
However, I have a feeling that the ridicule could ramp up a notch now that those kids have managed to find a way to get under her skin.
They finally got the reaction they had been waiting for, if you know what I mean.
She needs to be ready for that. I don't mean that she needs to be confrontational, but to be prepared to keep her emotions in check.
She needs to learn not to try to defend her choice (as in trying to defend Michael Jackson as a person), but to defend her right to have her own opinion.
If it does come down to the school taking away the trip, then yes, I would fight for her right to go.
She's a smart, talented girl who was finally provoked to her breaking point. Maybe she was immature in her reaction, but she's 14! IMO, taking away the trip would just be too harsh of a punishment.
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